Men of Meaning: Insights on Strength, Emotion, and Service from Kaushik da

[Nityam Ghosh]

A few days ago, during the masculinity session at the RURAL AID office, the conversation with Kaushik da turned out to be deeply inspiring. It began with a SALT Conversation during which many of his strong qualities came forward — he is a person with a good heart, always stands by others, has a positive mindset, and does not lose focus when facing challenges. He also believes that cooperation and standing together is his duty.

When asked, “How do you feel when you hear the word man or male?”,

Kaushik da said that this word reminds him of Lord Krishna, as He embodies endless virtues. According to him, a true man is one who has solutions to problems, holds a sincere desire to help others, takes care of his family according to their needs, is always ready to support others, and speaks with kindness.

What are the things that make you feel like a man but you hesitate to share with others?

He replied, “In my family, I often have to handle problems on my own. I don’t know whom to share these issues with or who will actually listen and respond. This often keeps my heart filled with worry.”This reflection revealed that people like Kaushik da, who constantly support their families and communities, often hide their own emotions and struggles. It shows that being a man is not just about appearing strong, but also about recognizing and embracing one’s inner feelings.

From this conversation, I learned several important things —

Sensitivity is also strength.

The story shows that people like Kaushik da, who are always available for their families and society, often hide their emotions and struggles. This reveals that being a man is not just about appearing strong, but also about understanding and embracing emotions.Wholeness like Lord Krishna.

While reflecting on masculinity, Kaushik da gave the example of Lord Krishna—His completeness, problem-solving ability, and readiness to help others. This teaches that the meaning of “man” is not just toughness or discipline but also compassion and a spirit of service.Sharing emotions is essential.

This experience also shows that men often hesitate to share their feelings with others—afraid of whether someone will listen or understand. It gives the lesson that society needs to create a space where every person—man, woman, or youth—can speak openly from the heart.

AER (After Experience Reflection)What went well today and why?

Today’s conversation was a very good and positive experience for Kaushik da because it was the first time he was asked such deep and personal questions about masculinity. He considered the discussion meaningful since it gave him an opportunity to express feelings that he usually keeps inside. He said that when someone listens to you silently without immediately giving solutions, it still brings great peace to the mind. His words clearly show that sharing emotions and experiences, even if they don’t lead to immediate solutions, is important for mental peace and satisfaction. Hence, today’s conversation served as a psychological and emotional support for him, helping him open up some of his inner barriers and feel calmer inside.

What could have been done better today?

According to Kaushik da, it would have been better if the conversation had lasted longer. Due to his work schedule, the time was a bit limited. He also added that if such a discussion took place with other staff members, that would be even better.

[Rituu B. Nanda]

Happy to learn from Kaushik da through you, thanks Nityam