Old Values, New Direction: A Dialogue on SALT and Masculinity with the Elderly

[Shahrukh Atpade]

Today, I visited some elderly people in Nandwal village. Along with a SALT activity, we discussed masculinity and the idea of forming an elderly men’s group. In reality, elderly people in rural areas are very resilient and warm hearted. Their old values, sweetness in speech, and affectionate nature provide a sense of comfort. However, in recent times, their children despite being more educated have started paying less attention to them. This is happening mainly due to a lack of communication and the generation gap. Nevertheless, all the elderly had gathered at the village square today.
In Nandwal village, a free medical van visits every Saturday and distributes free medicines. Elderly people benefit the most from this service. As there was some time before the van arrived, we started our discussion. Prior to this, individual SALT conversations had already taken place with everyone. Then the group discussion began. All of them expressed satisfaction that even at this age they are still able to work. Despite being over 70 years old, they shared that they continue to work in the fields and also do small household tasks, which gives them a sense of fulfillment. They also mentioned that spending time with their young grandchildren helps them stay happy and positive.
As an extension of this conversation, I also facilitated a discussion on masculinity. From earlier discussions, I had realized that men, especially elderly men, often share their situations, talk about their problems, and express their difficulties but what comes next ? The situation usually remains the same. Therefore, today I decided to take the discussion on masculinity a step further. I asked them what they could do to remain happy as men. Without hesitation, they responded.
They said that they go to the village temple, where every fifteen days, on Ekadashi, devotional songs are sung. During these gatherings, they feel immense joy and contentment. All sorrows, pain, and stress are forgotten, and everyone becomes absorbed in devotion. However, they noted that these gatherings also include elderly men and women from outside the village. They felt that it is important for more elderly people from their own village to participate actively.
During this discussion, I asked whether they would like to form an elderly group that could come together regularly to discuss various topics and provide a space where they could express their feelings. They agreed to this idea. I also shared the example of a senior citizens’ service association in Kolhapur city, explaining how elderly people encourage and support one another through different activities.
At the end of the discussion, it was decided that during the next meeting, we would have a detailed conversation about forming this group. 

[Rituu B. Nanda]

Thanks Shahrukh. Why do you think its important to have SALT and masculinity conversation with older men?