Oooops...I Lost It!!

[wiwin winarni]

Last week I did SALT Visit, even alone, to an NGO working at ARH issues. They used to be work by using BCI approaach and agree to combine SALT's way of workimg and thinking along with their outreach activities. The six members of NGO and me did exploration of individual and groups' strengths, buidling dream, initial self-assesment and plan of action. The visit then run smoothly until I were start writing and documenting my learning at the SALT visit.

Ooooops I learned nothing. I even could not remember what I've shared with them unless salt mechanims, prioritized practices to be ARH competence, potencial challenges based on experience of other ARH groups. I believe something wrong with me. WHAT IS THAT? I then realiazed after some times thinking and my little fellow remembered me about truly saltiness.

This happened cos I conducted as facilitator only and really want to document the visit for the sake of project report (to Indocmpetence, :D) to let them know thta I actively work to share this approach. Then I killed myself by misbehaving. I'were not a saltly person at that visit, I were salt facilitator. Up until today, I really want to revisiting them and let me blend at the process as a person. so I felt relax and could remember ands learning as a person about group responce to what I share with them.

Another fruitfull learning from this worderful salt approach!

Best Regards

Wiwin

[Olivia Munoru]

Great story Ibu Wiwin. I am sitting here wondering how I can share stories from Tasik and Papua and I have writer's block, badly ;-). You are one of my SALT mentors, so it is comforting to read your blog. We are all human, afterall!!!!

[Dewi Rahmadania]

teh wiwin..,

great story teh..!
tenkiu for sharing this..,

dewi

[Gaston]

Wiwin, a very relevant insight. Thanks for sharing. I experienced a similar thing before. Sometimes we're seen as 'expert facilitators', so we act like them! We share the approach, the experiences in other places and forget to open our other side of learning. Your reflections show your growth as a SALT facilitator. It inspires me. Thank you for that.

Gaston

[Jean-Louis Lamboray]

Ibu Wiwin,

I am very happy that you found that our community is safe enough to present a lesson learned from " a mistake"!
Many thanks.

JL

[Laurence Gilliot]

Oh Wiwin, you are such a wonderful person. I love how you share your insights :-)

What you share actually goes really deep. In the beginning of the Constellation, I think we all saw ourselves as 'facilitators', this was our role. But more and more we realized that our role was fading away. During community visits, we would not necessarily play a role but just be human, share about our own lives and vulnerabilities as well. I think this happens when we feel confident about our role. We can then let it go.
For instance, during one of the SALT visits in Thailand, Marlou took her four kids along. Her kids connected right away with the thai children, quicker than us adults of course. This was a moment were we connected on a human level with the community...

Do you think it happened because you were alone, no other team members with you to co-facilitate? We always try to work as a team so that we can remind each other to be human.

Take care and have a nice weekend!
Laurence