With SALT, we 'appreciate strengths'. Why do we appreciate
? Why don't we appreciate individuals for all of their traits, weak or strong? Are we failing to appreciate the full glory of our humanity by focusing on strengths?
When my children were growing up in England, I was one of the coaches in the local football team. Each year, for each year-group we selected the best players to make up 2 teams and that was it. Those best players became the players in the team. The rest fell by the wayside. That sounds like appreciating strengths.
Some years before I had been living in the United States and I became a coach in the local football team. But it was different. At the start of the year, we recruited as widely as possible and we had lots and lots of boys and girls who wanted to play football. And we made up as many teams as needed so that everyone could play. Then we went to a big meeting and made up as many leagues as we needed to let everyone play. Strengths were not an issue to become a member of our football club.
One year in the United States, I coached one of the good teams and that was similar to coaching in England. There were lots of strengths to appreciate. But the next year, I coached one of the lowest ability teams. In terms of football, there weren't many strengths to appreciate. But I did learn to rejoice and to appreciate the entire human being rather than the footballer. One week we only lost 6-0 and there was tremendous joy in our achievement.
At the end of the season, one of the parents gave me a book called 'Flow' by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. I recommend it. If you want the story of the book in one line, it is 'If something is worth doing, it is worth doing badly.....just as long as you do it was well as you possibly can.' The book is an appreciation of commitment....to both weaknesses and strengths.
So why do we appreciate STRENGTHS?
Or perhaps another way to ask the same question is 'What is a strength?'