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Comment by Dr Mitu Khurana on February 22, 2011 at 3:34pm

Thanks Nicole.

Laurence , yes the 4 needs you spoke about are the needs which were not met, and also the realization that our society has become so used to abuse and violence, that they do not even recognize it when they face it.

Also that the youth is today afraid to accept abuse. A change can happen , when the abused realize they are being abused, and the abuser realizes that he is abusing. I am feeling fine today , and am back to being myself, it was a temporary discouragement , but thanks for being concerned.

Comment by Nicole Rhonda Cole on February 22, 2011 at 12:59pm

Dr. Mitu

I feel your pain and I fully empatise with you on your thoughts

Comment by Laurence Gilliot on February 22, 2011 at 9:04am

Hi Dr. Mitu,

 

When the teacher shouted, did you felt discouraged and upset because 4 needs of yours were not met

- self-protection or peace within yourself

- consideration for young people

- communication and justice

- love ?

 

Laurence

Comment by Dr Mitu Khurana on February 22, 2011 at 8:28am

No Dear Laurence, I am not discouraged and upset because of violence by a authority person. But for two other reasons, which made me upset-

•   reminded me of old days- my husband used to shout at me precisely in the same way. i had not faced this type of shouting since 2008, when we finally separated. Guess I have not yet fully recovered from the violence. I want to recover.

• When teachers/role models/parents shout and abuse what does the younger generation learn.And when youth are afraid to speak up against the abuse- how will the change happen.
• why today the youth are afraid to call a spade a spade. why are they so afraid to say they did not like something, or they are hurt. why don`t they realize by taking abuse once- ...you encourage the abuser to continue abuse. I learned from my mistake.
• if role models and teachers and parents do this- they send across the message that it is o.k. to abuse.

Comment by Laurence Gilliot on February 22, 2011 at 5:21am

Hi Dr. Mitu,

 

So you are feeling discouraged, upset because you have a need for collaboration to cultivate peace, especially from 'authority' like teachers?

 

Laurence 

Comment by Nicole Rhonda Cole on February 21, 2011 at 4:30pm

2011 has started very badly for women and children in Guyana. Two women have already been murdered by their male partners; another woman lies in hospital seriously injured from multiple stab wounds inflicted by her partner; an 11-year-old girl was allegedly raped by a police officer at the BV police station; a 9-year-old boy committed suicide; a male and female student from one of the most prestigious schools in Guyana were filmed having oral and penetrative sex; a teacher has been charged for sexually assaulting female secondary school students. And these are only the cases that have been reported in the media. We are less than two months into a new year and it already seems as though domestic violence, gender-based violence and child abuse are set to continue unabated.

It is alarming to read in SN of February 17 that according to Vanessa Francis, repeated reports of domestic violence, including serious threats from her former reputed husband to the Cove & John police station, never resulted in arrests or charges being laid. The Commander, officer in charge of Cove & John and the Commissioner of Police must explain what investigation was done and why this attempted murderer was not charged and placed before the court. Police response to reports of domestic violence continues to be largely inadequate and not in keeping with the force’s own policy and procedures on domestic violence. The frequent breaches of DV policy and procedures result in murder, maiming and other life-threatening injuries, mainly to women like Vanessa Francis. While the police force continues to fall short in fulfilling its responsibilities – we are, for example, still to see the establishment and operation of the promised and much-needed specialized domestic violence and sexual assault units – domestic violence continues to escalate and is the leading cause of injury to women between the ages of 15 and 44. The old mantra of lack of resources is simply not acceptable.

Comment by Autry Haynes on February 21, 2011 at 4:27pm

It is moments like this Mitu we have to look within for inner strengths to keep us going despite the turmoil around us. Our hopes sometimes can measure with realities so my dear friend find something positive to think about, its there somewhere (^_^).

Comment by Dr Mitu Khurana on February 21, 2011 at 4:12pm

Today I am feeling very discouraged. very upset... will the change am hoping for, striving for to give my daughters - a better world . will it happen. I am feeling so small in front of the amount of violence around us on a daily basis... and people have stopped acknowledging the violence even. as they say you can take a horse to water - but you cant make it drink it.

Comment by Autry Haynes on February 21, 2011 at 4:04pm

Thanks Mitu.

 

Agree the "Are we human?" element is missing in society. Us in this regard are the converted but what can we do to create behavior change in the communities we have to interact with on a daily basis? When things like that happens, you are caught off-guard and thats challenging, you get confused.

We can seek opportunities to get teachers involved in community life practices. We operate from being invited but can be reverse the roles to suit the purpose?

 

Here initiative is needed. How would i react? cannot say now. But of course our thoughts are with you.

Comment by Dr Mitu Khurana on February 21, 2011 at 3:42pm

Thanks Autry! very well said. the play included artists of both genders- asking questions, making people think. I got a chance to address the audience, and yes some of the feedbacks I got was from both sexes. It is a fact that unless this becomes a Human Rights Issue rather than a specific Gender issue- this wont stop... we have to think as HUmans, for Humans and like Humans.

Today in our class one of our teachers lost his temper. He was shouting at the whole class , abusing them. That reminded me of my husband- he used to shout at me like that. I wondered what he is teaching the students- it`s alright to be abusive. The sad part is many students refused to acknoledge his violence as an abuse. we have become so used to it- we have lost the demarcation between what is abuse/voilence and what is acceptable. It is teachers/role modles/parents like him who set a example for youth to follow.

One thing what I do not understand is why why the tolerance level of people is increasing towards abuse. not towards each other , but towards abuse. I proposed writing a complaint to authorities, but more than 50% did not want to...

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