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It starts with people

Started Dec 12, 2017 0 Replies

A few months ago we (our triad called Nemo) started the online SALT-training. We just reached module II 'Who are we?'. Last year I started to write blogs on my website (and paused after a few months…Continue

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"This is a beautiful and inspiring story Birgitta! Thank you. Since I'm just in the beginning of the SALT-course this helps a lot to understand what our purpose is and how the proces can go. "
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"My capacity to love is only possible if I am capable of loving myself. If I don’t love myself, I can’t love others. Sometimes it takes courage to accept love. Receiving love touches our true selves, our deepest being. Giving true love…"
Margot replied to Geoff Parcell's discussion Community
"What is a community to me?  I’m part of more than one community: my two choirs, the group at my gym, my family, several good friends, where I see a one-to-one relationship as a community too. Let’s take my two very different choirs…"
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It starts with people

A few months ago we (our triad called Nemo) started the online SALT-training. We just reached module II 'Who are we?'. Last year I started to write blogs on my website (and paused after a few months because of an intensive temporary job). The text below, I wrote it about a year ago, seems to fit with the theme 'Who are we?'. Rituu asked me to post it. So here it is:It starts with people Without people there will be no organizations, sport clubs and schools. Without people these institutions…See More
Dec 12, 2017
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"Thank you Margot! I like this question and the power of it! I'll try out it from now!"
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Margot de Ruiter
How did you know about Constellation community?
A friend told me about someone who was 'involved' in projects around the world.
Self employed
Skype and telephone
Skype: margotderuiter Tel: 0031623203423
About Me:
I'm a connector: between people, between ideas, between the other and me. I do that as a trainer, coach, group coach and interim manager.
My dream:
My dream is to contribute to a world in which people cooperate in a way that does right to humanity. A world in which people learn to see the different perspectives and will honor those perspectives. My dream is a world where every human being (better: every living creature) can live in dignity.
My concern:
I don't really have a concern. I believe in the strength of people and the strength of humanity to solve problems. That includes me.
I'm proud of:
The transformation I went through the last 1,5 year. That I designed (with a friend) a training for personal leadership and team coaching and gave this training for a ngo in Lebanon.
What I think of Community Life Competence:
Until I'm very impressed and so happy I discovered the Community. I didn't manage to read everything until now. Will do that soon.
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Margot's Blog

On-line SALT course Module 2, Exercise 2: A space of trust

Posted on January 19, 2018 at 6:58pm 0 Comments

If I’m comfortable with the idea that we need to create and hold a space of trust? O yeah, of course!

My experience of being part of a group where no space of trust did exist: I felt alone; I was able to achieve acceptable results but I didn’t florish; everybody was working on his/her own; there was no synergy; sometimes I felt we were enemies.

When there is trust within a group, the result is far more than the sum of its parts; being and working together is fun, gives…


On-line SALT course. Module 1, exercise 1: reflection on Amber's story

Posted on January 19, 2018 at 6:57pm 0 Comments

Module 1, Exercise 1: Reflection on Amber’s story

For me Amber’s story is a reflection of me feeling uncomfortable, not at ease and shy when I read about history at school: I never understood why people (or countries) would do (e.g.) missionary work. Already as a kid it made me angry. I didn’t use the words I can use now: for me it felt so disrespectful to impose something on others. And of course, I don’t know anything about how the missionaries acted and how they were received. I…


What do we have in common?

Posted on November 17, 2017 at 10:36pm 2 Comments

What do we have in common?

Before we (Nemo-group: Noemí, Amir, Birgitta and Margot) made our first SALT-visit we talked about what we would have in common with the people we were going to meet.

For me that is a very important ‘exercise’, because it takes me out of my head and brings me into my heart and feelings.

I like to share my experience about using the exercise ‘What do I have in common with’ in my everyday…


Why do we sit in a circle?

Posted on November 11, 2017 at 11:30pm 4 Comments

'Why do we sit in a circle' was one of the first questions I was pondering and writing about after starting the SALT-course. In fact, there were more questions: 'How does hierarchy impact meetings?', 'How do rank differences show up in meetings?', 'What does a non-hierarchical setting means?', 'How do you create a non-hierarchical setting?', 'What will sitting in a circle do?'. These are my answers, based on my experiences in private and business situations. 

When hierarchy is…


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At 10:34pm on March 16, 2017, Rituu B. Nanda said…

Dear Margot,

Welcome to Community Life Competence! 

Could you add your picture as it adds a human touch to your profile? (go to 'settings' then 'upload photo')

Connect with members: We hope you will enjoy the opportunity to communicate with friends in all parts of the world. Under the Tab with ‘Members’ you can find people to connect with and members who share similar interest.

Post your experience: You can share your experiences with local responses and the competence process through putting up a blog. To post a blog, first sign in, then go to top of the page and click on the blue button ‘Our Stories’ and click on ‘+ Add ’. You can also comment on blogs posted by other members.

Requests: This the place where we learn together. If you want to discuss an element of the Competence process, or other issues related to local responses, please contribute to the forum. To participate in an ongoing discussion, sign in, go to the top of the page, click on the blue button ‘Requests’ and then click on topic of the discussion you are interested in. In the Request you have an option to start a discussion on a topic of your interest.

Again, we are very happy to have your voice on Community Life Competence and look forward to your contributions. You will find some suggestions and rules of play under the ‘help’ tab. Please do not hesitate to contact us if you need any assistance. If you want support contact rituu[@] To know more about the Community Life Competence approach, please visit

Warm regards,

Marlou and Rituu


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