Community life competence
Learning to listen better
The L in SALT often relates to 'Listen'.
Last week I wrote a piece in my blog (http://aidscompetence.ning.com/profiles/blogs/learning-to-listen-more) about a tool that has helped me to listen better.
So I wondered if people had any more ideas to help people like me to listen better. It is all very well to say that we should listen. But how do we stop hearing only what we want to hear and start to hear what people are saying?
While I would welcome pearls of philisophical wisdom, I am really looking for some practical tools like the one that I learned from John Rwomushana.
Phil
Last week I wrote a piece in my blog (http://aidscompetence.ning.com/profiles/blogs/learning-to-listen-more) about a tool that has helped me to listen better.
So I wondered if people had any more ideas to help people like me to listen better. It is all very well to say that we should listen. But how do we stop hearing only what we want to hear and start to hear what people are saying?
While I would welcome pearls of philisophical wisdom, I am really looking for some practical tools like the one that I learned from John Rwomushana.
Phil
Gloria
One of the tools I found helpful to truly hear what people are saying is in summarising or para-phrasing what I feel I have understood the other person is saying. The test to my listening is the response I get from the other party. When his/her response starts with "yeah....", then, I know I have heard him/her. To be able to do this, I have to remain very attentive to what is being said, to the verbal and non-verbal messages in order for me not to miss a point and having the other party responding,"err...no.... that's what what I mean..."
Using this tool has helped me a lot in my counseling work as well as in facilitating groups.
I hope to learn more from the rest as I am still learning to hear what people are actually saying :)
Gloria
Sep 16, 2012
Rituu B. Nanda
Helen Bevan @helenbevan
Some practical advice on how to talk less & listen more from
@Andy__BuckNov 30, 2017
Rituu B. Nanda
Hi Phil,
I have gone through your blog many times and have had different takeaways. This time it is the title. We indeed need to hone the art and practice of listening...listening with compassion. Thank you.
Jun 24, 2022