Search for help - Community life competence2024-03-28T23:22:41Zhttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/forum/topics/search-for-help?commentId=2028109%3AComment%3A26546&feed=yes&xn_auth=noHello Gusto and everyone,
Th…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2010-10-19:2028109:Comment:266922010-10-19T16:36:16.969ZJoao Arnaldo Vembanehttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/JoaoArnaldoVembane
Hello Gusto and everyone,<br />
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Thanks for sharing such a powerful history and bringing to debate important and concrete question.<br />
Well, when it comes to experience, I fear (negative emotion) to be judging people's life and recommend unnecessary changes. Why do I say this, I've learned that whatever problem takes place wherever and whenever with whomever, its solution lies on the will and act of that very person. He or she is the one who knows the roots, growth and effects of the problem. You made a…
Hello Gusto and everyone,<br />
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Thanks for sharing such a powerful history and bringing to debate important and concrete question.<br />
Well, when it comes to experience, I fear (negative emotion) to be judging people's life and recommend unnecessary changes. Why do I say this, I've learned that whatever problem takes place wherever and whenever with whomever, its solution lies on the will and act of that very person. He or she is the one who knows the roots, growth and effects of the problem. You made a very important step, by consulting from other people leaving with HIV if they experience the same feeling, however you don't tell us if whether did you get from them the why of their emotion. I mean, known solutions for known problems. From now I extract two problems: 1) fear of people living with HIV (that is not clearly identified). Fear itself ca never be a problem since it takes place without pre-meditation, but what causes it. If clearly identified, then we may get to understand what can/should be done. 2) your doubt or curiosity to know more about fear on people living with HIV and how there situation can be changed.<br />
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If I'm not wrong on understanding your writing, then for both problems, the solution lies on you going back to them and honestly and openly put your problem (what disturbs you), what you think and attentively listen to them. Likewise, you mentioned that within 11 people you got 7 with same situation, but did you, for instance, ask the other 4 members of the group why were they different?<br />
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As per my understanding a counselor should be an agle person, because he/she should have large ears, big eyes and small (but very small) mouth. in other words, should pay large listening, big and attentive look and small speech (reduced to questioning).<br />
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I hope I may have not increased your doubt... thanks again for such pertinent discussion.<br />
Joao Reply by Nicole Cole-Commissi…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2010-10-16:2028109:Comment:266022010-10-16T13:21:14.307ZNicole Rhonda Colehttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/NicoleRhondaCole
Reply by Nicole Cole-Commissioner-Women and Gender Equality Commission (Guyana)<br />
Greetings Gusto,<br />
People who are infected with HIV can be overwhelmed with Fear from time to time and it is natural given the fact that FEAR is part of our Biological Self. The FEAR felt is real and it may come from the fact that "Stigma and Discrimination" is still very strong towards PLWHAs. FEAR is a natural "defense mechanisim" that we are created with to "PROTECT" ourselves from HARM. When an individual feels…
Reply by Nicole Cole-Commissioner-Women and Gender Equality Commission (Guyana)<br />
Greetings Gusto,<br />
People who are infected with HIV can be overwhelmed with Fear from time to time and it is natural given the fact that FEAR is part of our Biological Self. The FEAR felt is real and it may come from the fact that "Stigma and Discrimination" is still very strong towards PLWHAs. FEAR is a natural "defense mechanisim" that we are created with to "PROTECT" ourselves from HARM. When an individual feels FEAR, the Brain sends the "Message" of "Fight" or "Flight" in response to the "Threat" it perceives as "LIFE-THREATENING". The other person expressing FEAR towards a PLHIV is naturally trying to protect Herself or Himself from "imminent" HARM given the FACT that there is no KNOWN CURE for HIV. FEAR of DEATH is NATURAL to all Species including Homo Sapiens Sapiens i.e. Humans.<br />
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Breathing Techniques are always Best to deal with FEAR as it helps to calm the nerves. A sense of Self is also a good tool to deal with FEAR. If one is confident in Self it helps one to face challenges in general be it FEAR or LOVE!<br />
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Meditation is also a technique that brings great joy to the Soul; it calms the mind and brings "inner-peace". Inner Peace is the Key to overcoming your FEAR. Seek to find Peace and pursue it. Pray daily for Strength and Courage! Jah Bless!<br />
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Nicole Cole<br />
Peace Ambassador-Universal Peace Federation Dear Gusto,
I do not know if…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2010-10-14:2028109:Comment:265462010-10-14T09:48:40.116ZMariJohttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/MariJo
Dear Gusto,<br />
I do not know if the way of dealing with stigma and discrimination is similar to that of a phobia as I am not sure that fear of disclosure because it might involve being discriminated against is a mental disorder comparable to phobia.<br />
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I find Laurence's recomendations to deal with physical symptoms of fear really useful, but stigma and discrimination have also a collective component that goes beyond individual fears and if stigma and discrimination are ocurring, then the fear of…
Dear Gusto,<br />
I do not know if the way of dealing with stigma and discrimination is similar to that of a phobia as I am not sure that fear of disclosure because it might involve being discriminated against is a mental disorder comparable to phobia.<br />
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I find Laurence's recomendations to deal with physical symptoms of fear really useful, but stigma and discrimination have also a collective component that goes beyond individual fears and if stigma and discrimination are ocurring, then the fear of people living with HIV in the area are very concrete and workable within the community.<br />
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So unless fear of disclosure is completely out of reality, I don't see how the treatment as a phobia could work.<br />
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Wouldn't it be good to work in the support group with the group's fear to the disclosure outcomes thus making it a social/community issue instead of a mental/individual problem? And also, it could help to identify how the group and the community could work together in addressing the issue.<br />
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Hope this is of help and wish you the best<br />
MariJo Dear Gusto,
I don't have exp…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2010-10-09:2028109:Comment:263752010-10-09T06:27:25.768ZLaurence Gilliothttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/LaurenceGilliot
Dear Gusto,<br />
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I don't have experience with therapies in terms of Phobia. But I definitely have experience with dealing with my own emotions :-)<br />
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Two experiences I want to share:<br />
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- <b>using your breath</b>: whenever I feel emotional (angry, fearful, or something else) I got back to my breath, meaning that I follow my breath. When we focus on our inhale and exhale, we focus our mind on something in the present moment which helps to dissipate the fears of the future or regrets in the past.<br />
So…
Dear Gusto,<br />
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I don't have experience with therapies in terms of Phobia. But I definitely have experience with dealing with my own emotions :-)<br />
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Two experiences I want to share:<br />
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- <b>using your breath</b>: whenever I feel emotional (angry, fearful, or something else) I got back to my breath, meaning that I follow my breath. When we focus on our inhale and exhale, we focus our mind on something in the present moment which helps to dissipate the fears of the future or regrets in the past.<br />
So basic meditation techniques will help the PLHIV a lot. It can be walking or sitting meditation.<br />
I recommend one of the books of Thich Nhat Hanh 'every step is peace' or 'present moment, wonderful moment'.<br />
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- <b>Emotional Freedom Technique</b>: very simple 'tapping' method that anyone can use on themself. You can access all info and a manual on <a href="http://www.emofree.com" target="_blank">www.emofree.com</a>.<br />
This technique is based on the fact that emotions are a disruption of the energy body flow. By tapping on certain areas of the body we reestablish the flow and the emotion is neutralized. EFT is very powerful and helps thousands of people around the world with phobia, addictions, trauma's, etc.<br />
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I hope this helps. Good luck!<br />
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Laurence