Can you appreciate conflicts? - Community life competence2024-03-28T21:46:40Zhttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/forum/topics/can-you-appreciate-conflicts?commentId=2028109%3AComment%3A145046&feed=yes&xn_auth=noHi Nathalie, you brought in a…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2018-04-12:2028109:Comment:1693612018-04-12T08:06:43.081ZBirgitta Schomakerhttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/BirgittaSchomaker
<p>Hi Nathalie, you brought in a key point! I find disagreement and conflict scary because we are not sure if the relationship will sustain. </p>
<p>As SALT facilitators we value connections and we focus on building a safe environment. And here comes the difficulty: some people feel safer when conflict stays hidden, and they might like to stress <strong>harmony</strong>, while others feel safe when there is <strong>honest</strong> communication, and they might prefer to have an open dialogue…</p>
<p>Hi Nathalie, you brought in a key point! I find disagreement and conflict scary because we are not sure if the relationship will sustain. </p>
<p>As SALT facilitators we value connections and we focus on building a safe environment. And here comes the difficulty: some people feel safer when conflict stays hidden, and they might like to stress <strong>harmony</strong>, while others feel safe when there is <strong>honest</strong> communication, and they might prefer to have an open dialogue on conflicting views as soon as possible. How do we facilitate a group when people have different experiences of what safety means? And when they have different practices around communicating with respect? That can be quite challenging. </p>
<p>It gets back to our personal perspectives on conflict: how do we handle disagreement and conflict in our own lives? What have we seen in our families when we were children: was it possible to disagree and come to a new agreement? What we have learned and experienced, we bring that to the group.</p>
<p>Fascinating!</p>
<p>To make it practical and methodological: I think it can be helpful to define a practice that we all agree upon, e.g. on how we want to deal with disagreement and feedback, how we express emotions like irritation and frustration, etc. </p> Interesting piece there,and i…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2015-06-20:2028109:Comment:1473092015-06-20T07:33:45.737ZFrank Adu-Asarehttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/FrankAduAsare
Interesting piece there,and i like the question,why is it then difficult?the selfish nature of man makes ethnic,racial,religious and most especially politically motivated conflicts difficult to solve and as you put it appreciate. To quote the professor Ali Mazure of blessed memory he "conflict is a concomitant of social interaction"we can never do without,but how and the skill to deal with it is the problem. Man is selfish.
Interesting piece there,and i like the question,why is it then difficult?the selfish nature of man makes ethnic,racial,religious and most especially politically motivated conflicts difficult to solve and as you put it appreciate. To quote the professor Ali Mazure of blessed memory he "conflict is a concomitant of social interaction"we can never do without,but how and the skill to deal with it is the problem. Man is selfish. Thank you Laurie, for sharing…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2015-03-13:2028109:Comment:1451572015-03-13T17:05:01.825ZNathalie Legroshttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/NathalieLegros
<p>Thank you Laurie, for sharing this experience! I will read your blog with a lot of interest. I imagine the difficulty of the 'crisis' and see courage in your team for allowing the tension to be openely expressed and explored. </p>
<p>Thank you Laurie, for sharing this experience! I will read your blog with a lot of interest. I imagine the difficulty of the 'crisis' and see courage in your team for allowing the tension to be openely expressed and explored. </p> Hi Nathalie!
Thank you for t…tag:aidscompetence.ning.com,2015-03-13:2028109:Comment:1450462015-03-13T16:44:44.686Zkhorchi lauriehttps://aidscompetence.ning.com/profile/khorchilaurie
<p>Hi Nathalie! </p>
<p>Thank you for this question! You just offer us the place to share our experience in La Réunion Island last week! </p>
<p>We have experienced a conflict during the training. After 4 days of training, started a deep conversation stimulated by the self-assessment and action plan. This conversation ended as conflict and real crisis! </p>
<p>What we did, was to appreciate the conflict and give it space. The facilitation team decided to offer to the group the chance to…</p>
<p>Hi Nathalie! </p>
<p>Thank you for this question! You just offer us the place to share our experience in La Réunion Island last week! </p>
<p>We have experienced a conflict during the training. After 4 days of training, started a deep conversation stimulated by the self-assessment and action plan. This conversation ended as conflict and real crisis! </p>
<p>What we did, was to appreciate the conflict and give it space. The facilitation team decided to offer to the group the chance to appreciate this time and learn from this conflict! </p>
<p>I'll not share more on this experience as my team mate is preparing a blog on this experience!</p>
<p>I truly believe we can appreciate conflicts in order to give them a space, and learn and grow from it! </p>
<p>And I would love to learn more about how to appreciate and give space to conflicts! </p>
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